The cheesiness implied in the title drew your attention didn't it?Well that was the purpose anyway since Blogger seems to be suffering from CDS (Comments Deficiency Syndrome) now-a-days with few active bloggers around who care to drop by and offer their valuable feedback.
And without a reader's opinion the existence of a blogger becomes pointless.
Anyway let's come to the topic.
To all Celine Dion fans worldwide..I'm sorry to disappoint y'all but this is not about her famous album.
But in any case this post is dedicated to love.
The significance of this mere 4-lettered word weighs so heavily on my shoulders that I feel unsure about doing this topic justice.But I'll try my level-best nonetheless.
Our lives are based on need and convenience.We always hanker after the things which are worthy in our opinion.When presented with a set of options we always choose the one which suits our needs perfectly.So basically when we are getting involved with another person it's either because being with that person is the most convenient alternative available(meaning it makes us happy and/or enhances our social standing) or that person is really important in our eyes.There's little or no love involved.
This is USUALLY the case.
There is of course the situation when you feel an undeniable attraction towards a particular person and your heart pines for their company.Now would you call that love?
Maybe or maybe not.The attraction for a person stems from their good character traits or physical appearance agree or disagree.
What if the person in question loses some of those qualities?Would your feelings remain the same?-The answer to that will be fraught with uncertainties.
Think about the whole institution of arranged marriage-from matrimonial ads in a newspaper column to profiles on shaadi.com it's all about flaunting yourself and inviting the choicest of proposals.(Unpleasantly reminds one of some business deal.)Isn't all of this about making the best bet?Where is the love in that?
Some of you will opine that in such cases love sprouts after marriage like that Platinum Day of love ad depicts.But is it really true?
Maybe being with each other turns into a habit with the passage of time and the companionship of one becomes indispensable to the other.Which brings us back to square one-Need and Convenience.
About 'love relationships' one gets to see everywhere these days...the less said the better.To know what I mean by that read down.......
And without a reader's opinion the existence of a blogger becomes pointless.
Anyway let's come to the topic.
To all Celine Dion fans worldwide..I'm sorry to disappoint y'all but this is not about her famous album.
But in any case this post is dedicated to love.
The significance of this mere 4-lettered word weighs so heavily on my shoulders that I feel unsure about doing this topic justice.But I'll try my level-best nonetheless.
Our lives are based on need and convenience.We always hanker after the things which are worthy in our opinion.When presented with a set of options we always choose the one which suits our needs perfectly.So basically when we are getting involved with another person it's either because being with that person is the most convenient alternative available(meaning it makes us happy and/or enhances our social standing) or that person is really important in our eyes.There's little or no love involved.
This is USUALLY the case.
There is of course the situation when you feel an undeniable attraction towards a particular person and your heart pines for their company.Now would you call that love?
Maybe or maybe not.The attraction for a person stems from their good character traits or physical appearance agree or disagree.
What if the person in question loses some of those qualities?Would your feelings remain the same?-The answer to that will be fraught with uncertainties.
Think about the whole institution of arranged marriage-from matrimonial ads in a newspaper column to profiles on shaadi.com it's all about flaunting yourself and inviting the choicest of proposals.(Unpleasantly reminds one of some business deal.)Isn't all of this about making the best bet?Where is the love in that?
Some of you will opine that in such cases love sprouts after marriage like that Platinum Day of love ad depicts.But is it really true?
Maybe being with each other turns into a habit with the passage of time and the companionship of one becomes indispensable to the other.Which brings us back to square one-Need and Convenience.
About 'love relationships' one gets to see everywhere these days...the less said the better.To know what I mean by that read down.......
Have I tortured you enough at a time when love is 'supposedly' in the air?
My apologies but this is not what I had set out to do.
Denouncing love or its existence has never been my intention.How can I reject one of the fundamental truths about life?
I had a friend once-a companion,a confidante,a partner in crime.
We laughed at the ridiculousness of things,we argued over a million topics under the sun,we talked nineteen to the dozen over a drab cheese sandwich and a hot cuppa coffee.We had prolonged telephone conversations about everything and nothing,we engaged in deathly verbal battles and although rarely, we agreed with each other at times.No there was nothing lovey-dovey in this relationship.No stirrings of the so-called romantic love.
And yet I loved him....not in the way a woman loves a man but in a way one human being loves another.
I still care for him.I want him to smile and be happy.And I don't want anything in return.
Some part of my heart firmly believes that the feeling is mutual.
But we don't speak to each other anymore.One has become invisible to the other.
I can't really say what went wrong.One moment everything was fine...and in the next one everything fell apart.If you ask me what was the reason behind I won't be able to explain properly.But I fear our life-sized egos got in the way.
He would never apologize to me and I am too proud to go say a sorry to him.But we would feel what we feel from a distance.There's absolutely no hope that we'll ever make up but we continue to wish each other well.
So what do you call such a thing?a relationship devoid of any words,gestures or any kind of communication?a relationship where there are no needs or demands,no gains or losses?
I think I know what it is....a love between friends that few will understand and most will find strange.
A mother's pride in her child's achievement,a father figure silently watching over his family,an act of compassion towards a total stranger,a friend always ready to help you out in times of need-love is omnipresent in all its myriad colors.
But we are often too blind to notice.
Love exists....not to boost the sales of diamond trinkets,cards or cute teddy bears for V-day but to make life worth living.
My apologies but this is not what I had set out to do.
Denouncing love or its existence has never been my intention.How can I reject one of the fundamental truths about life?
I had a friend once-a companion,a confidante,a partner in crime.
We laughed at the ridiculousness of things,we argued over a million topics under the sun,we talked nineteen to the dozen over a drab cheese sandwich and a hot cuppa coffee.We had prolonged telephone conversations about everything and nothing,we engaged in deathly verbal battles and although rarely, we agreed with each other at times.No there was nothing lovey-dovey in this relationship.No stirrings of the so-called romantic love.
And yet I loved him....not in the way a woman loves a man but in a way one human being loves another.
I still care for him.I want him to smile and be happy.And I don't want anything in return.
Some part of my heart firmly believes that the feeling is mutual.
But we don't speak to each other anymore.One has become invisible to the other.
I can't really say what went wrong.One moment everything was fine...and in the next one everything fell apart.If you ask me what was the reason behind I won't be able to explain properly.But I fear our life-sized egos got in the way.
He would never apologize to me and I am too proud to go say a sorry to him.But we would feel what we feel from a distance.There's absolutely no hope that we'll ever make up but we continue to wish each other well.
So what do you call such a thing?a relationship devoid of any words,gestures or any kind of communication?a relationship where there are no needs or demands,no gains or losses?
I think I know what it is....a love between friends that few will understand and most will find strange.
A mother's pride in her child's achievement,a father figure silently watching over his family,an act of compassion towards a total stranger,a friend always ready to help you out in times of need-love is omnipresent in all its myriad colors.
But we are often too blind to notice.
Love exists....not to boost the sales of diamond trinkets,cards or cute teddy bears for V-day but to make life worth living.
"Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or
conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not
resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins, but delights in the
truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever
comes."-quote from Jamie's Bible in A Walk To Remember
conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not
resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins, but delights in the
truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever
comes."-quote from Jamie's Bible in A Walk To Remember
Last 4 lines r lovely n d best lines of d post ;)n Love is omnipresent!!! hmmm nice thot :)
ReplyDeletei hope my first comment ll help reduce ur CDS ;)hehehe
ReplyDeletelolz...thank u ruksan
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